Tuesday, May 21, 2024
4:25 a.m. Guys, if you don’t have something else queued up, a question occurred to me yesterday. Prompted, perhaps; I recognize that.
Feel free. It will not interrupt.
Well, it’s this: Why do we feel this urge to be more? And if I’m reading it rightly, not just 3D humans, but apparently everything. Why aren’t we content with being whatever it is that we are, if things are perfect as they are?
Do not construe “All is well” to mean “Everything is in a perfect condition at whatever stage it is, at whatever time you consider.” The meaning of All is Well includes the urge to improve, which as you note is innate.
“All is well” does not mean, “Don’t tinker with the formula,” any more than it means “This is the best of all possible worlds.” It means, “Matters are proceeding as they must and should.” It does not mean, “Here is paradise, all passengers disembark.”
I should have seen that. It is the difference between a dynamic and a static.
That is correct. If – as we have said – human function in 3D is, among other things, to be the trickster, the disturber of the peace, how would that make sense if the peace it was disturbing was already perfect?
This is now clear to me, thanks. Will others require more, or will their inner connection bridge over to the same understanding?
Some will, some won’t. but you are asking, do we need to say more here. Probably not. The key is to remember that striving, incompleteness, growth, longing, dissatisfaction are all part of reality, and nothing wrong with any of them as an experience. Lewis and Clark felt them all; it was part of the price to reach the Pacific.
You cleaned that one up economically. Let me press my luck. Tell us whatever you want to tell us about obsessions. Sexual, monetary, any way they manifest. This query came to me Sunday and it too had a vague flavor of having been prompted, that I might in turn prompt you.
This is a very big topic, that will come clear to the extent you keep in mind, as we discuss, that:
- A 3D human is a compound
- In 3D, nothing is complete and settled; everything is in process, if only because everything appears in different context as you move through time-slices.
- Incompletion and other uncomfortable emotions and conditions are – as we said – normal, natural, and therefore essential to the proper functioning of the system.
- You are an integral part of the rest of humanity by being connected to your strands and what they connect with.
- Nonetheless, there is the equivalent of distance in psychic affairs no less than in physical affairs. You are closer to some attitudes than to others. You occupy definite points on various polarities, and that may or may not change, but as a starting-place it is a fixed ratio.
- And, remember, everything affects everything, but there are rules for processes. Things don’t happen at random.
- Thus if you find yourself at war with yourself, it is only a small version of your situation, for in a way it may be said that all tendencies are contending with one another all the time, in many ways. Sometimes this results in peace, sometimes in a cease-fire, sometimes in guerrilla warfare, sometimes in World War III. In miniature, and in large.
- However, remember this is equally true of cooperation and reinforcement among strands, as among 3D individuals: You are involved in romances, alliances, partnerships, marriages of convenience – any form of cooperation you can imagine, you can experience. It is not this or contention; it is this and contention. Don’t succumb to tunnel vision, seeing only one.
- And of course most important in the context of the question of obsession, remember that you in 3D are partly aware, partly not, with emotion being the boundary between the two.
So, you are obsessed. By what? It could be an emotion itself, or really let’s say by a character trait interacting with the 3D container.
Not clear yet.
You may be born a mixture of traits that cannot equalize.
I waited for more, then figured you wanted that sentence to stand alone.
We wanted it to stand out, yes, for the key to the subject is right there in the word “equalize.”
I was thinking yesterday, no wonder male and female yearn for each other: Each has lifelong access to, and familiarity with, and is personification of, what the other sex does not. I don’t mean accidental personality traits, I mean the essence of the feminine or masculine that is the basis of the 3D person. It is like each is starved for what the other is sated with.
And no way to equalize. That is one valid way to see the situation. And when young, the imbalance is experienced as needing a physical expression to equalize. That is, sex relations will bring what you need. But with time comes the realization that it can’t be found that way, that the yearning or call it the vector toward completion is not merely physical nor even physical plus emotional.
Colin Wilson often wrote that there is a sort of conjuring trick about the way sex works. It promises so much and then when the physical act is achieved, the promise is not kept, and we can’t figure out how it could have been kept. Some people keep looking for it in other people, some in other variations of the sex act, some in other variations of their emotional attitude toward it, but nobody solves the riddle.
That is true as far as it goes, but of course is only one aspect of a tremendously complicated subject. The specific application here is your question of obsession.
Michael Ventura used to write about how sexual obsessions had heir own law, their autonomy, so that they compelled the person to engage them in one way or another, if only to struggle against them.
And, as you noted, obsessions may come in many forms, not just sexual. It is a matter of impulsion toward the unfulfilled.
Well, yes, by definition.
But we have said more than you realize. Sink into it for a moment.
The implication I’m getting is that obsessions have a legitimate purpose.
Let’s say, they are useful indicators. If you are flying an airplane and your fuel gauge shows that you are low on fuel, is it the fuel gauge’s fault that things are other than you could have wished them? Is the gauge an obstruction, a temptation, or is it an indicator?
And an indicator doesn’t tell us what we must do, it merely tells us the state of affairs that exists.
Similarly – like any strong emotion – an obsession.
So then how do we deal intelligently with obsessions, particularly if they pull us toward something we don’t approve of?
One thing you don’t do is look down on it as something evil and unconnected with what you are. It is very likely to be representing parts of yourself of which you are unaware, or which you deny because you disapprove. Heed the fuel gauge! But that is not the same as saying, Do as it prompts you.
No, I get the distinction. Be as aware as you can be, and interact with it.
Yes. Give it the respect of your attention. Engage with it on a peer-to-peer basis, not you looking down from above to below. Do some active imagining.
We predict that if you “show willing” to be aware of it, to understand it, it will change from an obsession to something manageable. How it will change, what it will change into, is not predictable, but getting anything into consciousness is to bring it under control. That’s really all you need to know to deal practically. Theoretical considerations are for those interested; we will content ourselves with this much. Anyone can find herein the way to go deeper into the subject theoretically or practically. It is a matter of listening and paying attention.
Enough for the moment.
Our thanks as always.