75th talk with Rita – 4-6-2015

Monday, April 6, 2015

F: 5:10 a.m. Here we go again. Shall we begin as you advised me to yesterday, Miss Rita, with queued-up questions, or do you have something different in mind today?

R: Everything connects. I think you will find, in the long run, that one’s plans and short-term maneuverings mean little as opposed to one’s deeper motivations and interests. So, it amounts to saying, do what you want to do and you will wind up expressing who you are, and therefore and thereby, what you want to do. It is how we live when the ever-moving-present-moment goad and stimulus is removed from the equation.

F: I hadn’t thought of that. It sort of implies that if one has no internal compass, one can only be blown about by the winds.

R: Well, it might be more helpful to put it this way: Once beyond 3D time as it is experienced, your array of choice is much expanded, and this has both agreeable and disagreeable aspects. For those who have never had enough time to do everything they wanted to do, it is freedom. For those whose life was internal tedium stemming from lack of internal resources or direction, it can be a harsh and empty desert. But either of these extremes is much modified, of course, to the extent that the newly arrived soul is in greater touch with the rest of itself, for all those other influences will modulate and to some degree contradict any extreme reaction.

F: But in any case it means that preference, individual will, self-direction, is important to our afterlife.

R: To our continued, expanded, life, yes. The new Marine just out of boot camp has been repaid for his recently endured hardships by a greatly strengthened self-reliance and a tightly formed or perhaps re-formed sense of self. So it is with compound beings emerging from the 3D life that shaped or re-shaped them. (And just for the sake of a complete statement, I remind you and your readers that in my context, “3D” or “Earth” when used generically includes all matter, not only one planet.)

F: Understood.

R: We may return to this particular aspect of post-3D existence at another time. Meanwhile, let’s clear the queue a bit.

F: All right. How about this one?

Patience and healing

[An emailed question from a person who had an unsettling experience with relatives and felt betrayed: She is “wondering what in my shadow land brought this about now. I can only hope with patience and time I will be less distraught and angry. Last night, I confronted my brother in a dream. Despite all my work on forgiving, rationalizing etc. I felt a deep betrayal from him.”]

R: Perhaps consider this. There is actually no hurrying psychic processes beyond a certain point, any more than there is a hurrying of physical healing beyond a certain rate. This is not an absolutely true statement – for miracles occur, and in the absence of miracles, still one can do better or worse at helping the process of healing – but relatively it is true. I’d say, simply, be patient with yourself and hold your intent at healing, and give yourself and the universe time, remembering that you will rarely have the full story of what is going on or why it takes time.

Meeting uncrystallized personalities?

F: Okay, here’s another, from a friend I met at a TMI course:

[Craig Hendricks: “Maybe I don’t quite understand the idea of a personality that fully forms/develops (crystalizes?) or does not. As a medium, when we hold Healing Circles, everyone who comes in to assist the 3D person at the center of the Circle is obviously fully formed and continuing. I have yet to see any circle where the entire non-3D family, of the focus of the circle, does not show up. Admittedly, I have only a relatively small population of examples. However, I find it unimaginable that what we are experiencing is not the norm. At least, at that stage, everyone and their entire non-3D family must be fully formed and continuing as set personalities. Strands, if you will. Am I missing something from what has been discussed before?”]

R: This is more a problem of language than a misunderstanding. Think of the personalities that do not crystallize as merely potential that did not actualize, and you will get a useful concept. It isn’t strictly accurate, but it will give you an approximately true idea that will be useful.

F: A horseback approximation.

R: Well, a slurring-over of non-productive complications. It isn’t that I couldn’t say more, but that the “more” wouldn’t be of any use; certainly not at this stage. We’re still always improving our grasp of A by B and of B by A, remember. The thing for Craig to remember that will help him now as he wrestles with these concepts is that his perceptions are right and the theoretical complications that language poses are merely theoretical, merely abstractions. To encounter an uncrystallized being would be as likely and as useful as encountering an unlived potential. It might be interesting and it might flesh out an understanding, but you couldn’t do anything with it. That’s enough on this for now.

Holding it together

F: Okay. We’re in clean-up mode, I see, for sure. Next?

[Chey: “I’m still not clear on crystallizing. Can Rita give us a definition of “holding it together”? What does that feel like, what are the steps to do that, how can we know if we’re ‘on the beam’ to accomplish that?”]

R: Again, language is making something that should be intuitively obvious into an unfamiliar-seeming idea. Ground all this in your lives, and you’ll get the idea seemingly automatically.

Your life, as you live it day by day, is the “holding it together.” Dealing with your own internal difficulties (that will often seem external, or at least caused by externals) is the work you are here to do. It isn’t anything more complicated or alien than that.


F: Next?

[Jim Price: “[I wonder if Rita has more to say on: to become better acquainted with unknown parts of yourself… to communicate with your body’s intelligences…not only what you think of as guidance but other modifying intelligences as well. This was in regards to health practices — her suggestion that communication and connection are more valuable than seeking out a specific healing modality (or as a way of enhancing any chosen healing modality). In some ways, this is an ongoing process — I’m not sure we’re likely to become conscious of all our modifying intelligences. I do understand her point about not being concerned with definitions, more to be open to what is available and connect there (here). But the point in asking is to prime the pump on the topic.”]

R: Live trusting life. That’s all that needs to be said here. Trusting life means expanding to everything within you, to the limit of your draw, and then being okay with stopping, too. There is no point in providing more words; they will only blur the point, for this is not an intellectual process, but a decision to be lived. Live trusting life, and you will be drawn to what you need.

F: I don’t know if it is our joint mind or what, but all these answers seem self-evident, this morning.

R: To quote you quoting that novel, “There is hope for you.”

F: Very funny. Okay, part two of Jim’s question:

Making it conscious

[“Carl Jung had a saying (paraphrase): “What is unconscious really is unconscious.” His point was: what we don’t see — we really don’t see (perceive). But the pump that connects to the well can be primed… Everything in your life is defined by your presence or absence of communication (another quote from that session that is good on its own, but might also benefit from expansion). Everything… This goes beyond mindfulness, and even mystic participation — mindfully connecting with each aspect of our lives as presented or emerging as a process of communication (which implies interchange).”]

R: Not really a question. All I wish to add is a corollary that may not be obvious to some: Since you cannot make the unconscious entirely conscious, any more than you could put the ocean into a teacup, it should follow that – you don’t need to!

F: In other words, too much intellectualizing may get in the way.

R: That, and also, you automatically have whatever you need, whether or not you realize it. As I said, trust your life.

F: Okay, here’s another.

Deferred questions

[John Wolf: “I was going to ask about the nature of our Earth relationships with each other, such as a family, as we transition and become more aware of our greater beings and other aspects of non-3D. Then it hit me that these relationships were not created in 3D alone as we perceive it on Earth, but in non-3D to begin with. That puts a different perspective on the way we look at “family”. So the question is, when being formulated in non-3D, what is the nature of the thinking or other action that results in what we see as an Earth family, or any other tightly knit group of people in physical reality?”]

R: It should be clear how much you and I and everyone reading this owe Charles for his diligence and perception, to provide us the raw material thus prepared.

F: I agree, of course.

R: In this particular case, I am going to set the question aside, though. It is not only a theoretical question of no immediate practical application, but one that requires too much background that has not yet been supplied and perhaps never will be supplied (depending upon where we go, and for how long, etc.). But it is a productive question and some who are drawn to it will be able to find their own answers, and [further] questions, by working with it.

I will defer, too, Al [Dahlberg]’s questions on the TMI Explorers program. That will go better as a session in itself, not as the tail-end of this session. Let’s go with one of Charles’ own.

An extended family

[Charles: “What do beings that have had 3D experiences, but not on earth, add to a 3D life on earth?”]

F: Skipping one, as I had the sense that this is the one you wanted.

R: It is easiest to deal with in these few minutes. The short answer is, everything that is different.

F: I get the entertaining sense of an extended family that has married into different ethnic traditions and has thereby become somewhat diffuse and varied over time.

R: You – you in 3D, Frank, not you in particular – tend to exaggerate the differences between humans and ETs, as if there were an absolute difference between someone living in Ohio and one in California, or between either and a Patagonian or a Mongol. Yes, there are all kinds of regional, ethnic, cultural, racial differences that may be regarded as obstacles or as spice to relationship, but there is no absolute difference.

F: No “great gulf fixed.”

R: No. Think of yourselves as extended family, and bear in mind that your own “internal” expanded family – part of the particular “you” of you – may well include incarnations present past or future in other places that you in Earth 3D may never encounter or suspect or (in any case) recognize. From here, you’re all – we’re all – cousins.

And that will have to do it for the morning.

F: You did a lot. Okay, Rita, thanks as always.

3 thoughts on “75th talk with Rita – 4-6-2015

  1. “you’re all – we’re all – cousins.”

    Several weeks ago, we had a very interesting Circle. Consciousness came into the circle and overlaid itself upon me. While not curious or a surprise in and of itself, it was obvious that the intelligence that had “connected” was rather cold or emotionally disconnected yet quite observant of our activities. As other intuitives within the circle sensed or received information about this intelligence, many became quite upset or disturbed as they were receiving information about the 9/11 attack on the Twin Towers. Then, it suddenly became obvious the intelligence was one of the hijackers. As the other intuitives began sharing their upset and even anger toward this intelligence, I could feel the complete lack of connecting emotion that was attached to him. It was almost like feeling an emptiness. One friend of mine standing closest to me spoke her mind and heart to this entity. Then, to my surprise the entity responded through me, quite unemotionally, “I understand, you have every right to feel that way.” The entity left shortly after.

    A few days later, I was at a concert and the intelligence returned. I could sense immediately it was him by the complete emptiness. Yet, I also realized he was there observing all the people within the concert who were enjoying themselves and enjoying, even loving the company of the event. He left again without comment or emotion.

    The next Sunday, when I was at church he returned again to my complete surprise. This time he arrived during a time when we had some visiting musicians and song writers who were singing some small ditty about love. In the midst of the song, a rush of emotion poured through me and it was obvious that it was this young man feeling a very emotional form of love that had been lost; but, was now found.

    He has not returned since. I believe that he had no need to return after that. I do not know what was accomplished for him by his visits or his original goals. But, I did come away with the knowledge reinforced that “we’re all cousins.” We seem to be connected in this journey that we are all on. It is our openness that allows our “cousins” the opportunity to continue growing with respect to their 3D experience in the non-3D.

    Thank you Rita, Frank.


    1. That’s very interesting.

      Back in 2001, I was doing retrievals with a friend, and in one we were helping the occupants of one of the planes, when i was called to go to the cockpit. The cockpit was filled with bodies — I forget how many of them, maybe seven. It was the only retrieval I ever did that contained the presence of bodies (as opposed to people who had died but still considered themselves alive). Turned out, i was there with one of the hijackers. The gist of the experience was that i told him, look, this didn’t turn out the way you were told it would (i.e. virgins, paradise, all that), so maybe a lot of the rest of what you were told isn’t true either. I had the sense that he opened up to something, and then he was gone.

      It’s never justified to give up on people, is my take-away. Thanks, Craig.

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